Professional matchmakers in Los Angeles like myself are always on the lookout for great singles wherever I go: the grocery store, the mall, networking functions, or The Getty. As soon as I chat someone up, they either get excited meeting a real matchmaker or get defensive that they don’t need help finding someone and that they’d rather meet someone by chance (or as I like to say, “organically”). There are pros and cons to both ways of meeting great catches, but of course I would ask a committed seeker, “Why not both ways?” Heck, increase your odds by having me look for you, going to your company’s happy hours, taking friends along to a singles’ mixer, and by telling single friends you are open to being set up.
You can meet someone organically at a bar, but you wouldn’t know if they want children, would date a smoker, or even want a relationship. If you get introduced by me, you will at the very least get critical information such as their age, their height, if they are gainfully employed, if they want a family, and their hobbies. I also sit down with both parties to find out intangibles, such as personality, style, and dating goals. When both parties meet, they know they share common interests, goals, and values.
So, if I’m not there to introduce you to that cutie across the room, maybe these tips can help. Men ask me, “How do you know if she is attracted to me?” Women ask me, “How can I convey that I’m interested?” Well, it’s simple. Let me give you some pointers.
It starts with eye contact. When you see someone you’d like to meet, positioning yourself in her direct line of sight is a must. Have a gentle, fixed gaze on her and eventually she’ll feel you looking at her and that’s when she’ll look up. What do you do? You nod and smile. She, of course, will avert her eyes.
Does she like you? Well, it all depends on how she looks away. If she looks back in 45 seconds, then she likes you. That’s the test. She likes you if she looks down toward the floor and sweeps the floor with her eyes. She is pretty much saying she welcomes your approach. She is not sure if she likes you if she looks away horizontally like she’s “sweeping the wall.” If she rolls her eyes or looks toward the ceiling, sorry dude, she doesn’t like you. Stop right there and abort mission.
What do you do if she is sending the signal she is interested or neutral? First, you should make your approach if she gives you a second smile. Yes, you should smile back. Second, you should walk toward her and stand close enough to talk but not too close. Respect her distance. What does her body language say? It’s a bad sign if she stands or turns away from you. If she turns partially or fully towards you, then that’s a great sign. If she stays in the same position, she is not sure yet. Third, you should say something neutral but not too personal. You might want to ask her an open-ended question (i.e. “How do you know the hostess?” or “How are you enjoying the show?” Men should make sure their voice is warm, confident, and expressive. Women should answer the question matching his tone of voice. Lastly, you should talk to her as you would a friend. Keep your eyes open and check out her body language.
I meet a lot of intelligent, successful singles who seem to have it all, from career and education to health and fitness, yet are seriously lacking when it comes to finding and maintaining a relationship. A big part of my success as a matchmaker is that I genuinely believe life is better with a great catch to share it with. I encourage you diversify the ways you are meeting your perfect catch! If you’re a great catch and might be a match with one of my clients, I’d love to introduce you at no charge. You would have to be as interesting for my client as he/she is for you. So to increase your odds and meet someone through me, click here to fill out a profile: http://www.catchmatchmaking.com/online-profile/
Call me if you’d like a free consultation ($197 value) at 310 867 0851.
May Hui
Professional Matchmaker
www.CatchMatchmatchmaking.com
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