Advice from Los Angeles Matchmakers: Does He or She Exist
Advice from Los Angeles Matchmakers: When a man or woman is ready to find a great catch to share their life with, it is amazing how convicted they are when it comes to the characteristics of their “ideal” partner but rarely has that “ideal” image been compared to reality and put to test. Does he or she exist or is this a wild goose chase?
Dating for the busy single professional sounds like a lot of effort without going on a wild goose chase for someone that may not even exist. Just like on any road trip, someone looking for love also needs to successfully navigate from start to finish. There are signs on the road to check in and verify that you are headed in the correct direction towards your destination. What are those “check in points” when it comes to finding love?
It is no different in the dating world to “check in” to see how ideals compare against reality to make your journey of finding love more fruitful. I help many men and women fulfill their romantic ideals by doing just that. We are so grateful that we have many resources at our disposal and here are the common “checkpoints” that we share with the single men and women we work with:
Advice from Los Angeles Matchmakers: GO for women in their mid 30’s, STOP limiting to dating women in their 20’s
Many men in their 30’s and 40’s who want to have kids say that their ideal woman is in their mid to late 20’s. These men believe that this will give them time to date, get to know a woman, and then commit to family and kids. They believe that could take a few years so they want women to have more child bearing years left. However, women today are having kids into their late 30’s and even early 40’s so the reality is that men who are interested in starting a family should be more open to dating beyond women in their 20’s. The fit, attractive single women in their 20’s on average are just getting into their careers, living on their own, and probably bombarded with dates so settling down to have a family is not yet on their minds. Men can prefer women in their 20’s, but the guy who is serious about a stable relationship and starting a family has greater chances on focusing on women in their 30’s because women in this age group are also ready!
Advice from Los Angeles Matchmakers: GO for the career woman if you are ready to give her the space and support, STOP expecting her to be the perfect homemaker as well
Some men really like the characteristics and benefits of being in a relationship with a career woman such as confidence, outgoing, and financial independence…but he also expects that she will also be a great cook, home decorator, and goes to the gym everyday! It is rare that she can be Superwoman so cut her some “slack” because she is human.
Advice from Los Angeles Matchmakers: GO for the man who is genuine, thoughtful and responsible, STOP looking for Mr. Popular or Mr. Rockstar
Women find the confidence and sometimes arrogant quality in men to be so attractive that they overlook a guy who is genuine, thoughtful, kind and responsible. This guy is often seen as boring and dry before he even has a chance to shine and show his interests and passions. If a woman is serious about settling down and starting a family, then certain qualities like thoughtful and responsible are more of a priority than looking for a cool guy who can talk sports or an edgy guy who can play music. So what if she doesn’t like to snowboard or he doesn’t like the museum? Go and have a guy’s weekend or girl’s day and do that with your friends. If you both have other things in common, similar goals, and core values, then those things will take you further in your relationship than if she likes beach volleyball.
Advice from Los Angeles Matchmakers: GO and make some changes in your life if you are not happy with something, STOP using that as an excuse as to why you are not meeting someone
If you think you could lose 30 pounds, join a Bootcamp or the gym, eat less and eat right. Hire a dietician, trainer, or sign up for Jenny Craig already. Stop complaining and make a change. If you think your big nose is getting in the way of finding your true love, make an appointment with a rhinoplasty surgeon and see if they can help. You are young now and there is no better time than to make some changes now. Or, you can wait to find someone who will “love me for who I am and they shouldn’t mind that I’m 30 pounds overweight” but the reality of it is, the dating world is a very visual world. Let’s help you make the best first impression! So you haven’t updated your look in a few years? What are you waiting for? A new haircut and color can instantly take years off you. Maybe to boost your dating confidence, you just need to buy a first date outfit, a second date outfit, and a third date outfit. Yes, it’s okay to wear the same one on all your first dates and that way you won’t stress out about what to wear!! You want a new look or image? Go for it!
In summary, we’ve been Los Angeles matchmakers for many years and making 1,000’s of connections. We are personal matchmakers because we genuinely love people. If you are seeking love and need some guidance in dating in Los Angeles or Orange County and need help in any of the areas we mentioned above, don’t hesitate to contact us. We are the friendliest matchmakers in Los Angeles. We’d love to help. Take the time to check out our website at www.catchmatchmaking.com or contact us at http://www.catchmatchmaking.com/contact-us/
Happy Dating!!
Katie Chen and May Hui
Responsible for over 1,000 connections and has a success rate well above the industry. To be considered a match for one of their exclusive clients, check out http://www.catchmatchmaking.com/online-profile/
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